[clang-tools-extra] [include-cleaner] rename enabled flags to `disable-*` (PR #132991)

[Mohamed Emad via cfe-commits]

hulxv wrote:

@AaronBallman Do you think we need to work on something in CommandLine to make the deprecation of commands easier and standardised for all tools?

https://github.com/llvm/llvm-project/pull/132991