[clang-tools-extra] [include-cleaner] rename enabled flags to `disable-*` (PR #132991)

[Mohamed Emad via cfe-commits]

hulxv wrote:

> If Insert or Remove is true, we should diagnose those as being deprecated and recommend using disable-insert or disable-remove instead.
`Insert` and `Remove` are true by default. Should it not be as false? Also, the recommendation should be as regular `stdout` message, or is there a specific function for that?

> A release note should be added to clang-tools-extra/docs/ReleaseNotes.rst so users know about the change and new flags.
Is there a specific format for this note? 



https://github.com/llvm/llvm-project/pull/132991