<div dir="ltr">Moving this discussion back to something productive - I think if there's any chance of technical merit left it should be around bugs filed and maybe even patches attached. Purely technical and code to review would allow everyone to move past feelings and focus on what's really important.<br><br><br></div><div class="gmail_extra"><br><div class="gmail_quote">On Thu, Jun 29, 2017 at 10:21 PM, Robinson, Paul via llvm-dev <span dir="ltr"><<a href="mailto:llvm-dev@lists.llvm.org" target="_blank">llvm-dev@lists.llvm.org</a>></span> wrote:<br><blockquote class="gmail_quote" style="margin:0 0 0 .8ex;border-left:1px #ccc solid;padding-left:1ex">
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.5in">I say that I have a mild personality disorder such that I can’t say<u></u><u></u></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.5in">things in politically correct style, and that this is a disability that I<u></u><u></u></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.5in">have had for the last third of my adult life. I would like to think that<u></u><u></u></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.5in">folks could accommodate someone with a disability. I would like<u></u><u></u></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.5in">to think that llvm-dev could be such a place.<u></u><u></u></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif";color:#1f497d"><u></u> <u></u></span></p>
</span><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif";color:#1f497d">You are not alone in making such a claim. However, claiming an inability to discern hurtful behavior does not give you license to commit hurtful behavior.
In a community whose norms include avoiding hurtful behavior, it means you need to pay more attention to that possibility in order to meet those norms.<u></u><u></u></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif";color:#1f497d">Here's a procedure I try to use after writing an email, and that has been helpful:<u></u><u></u></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif";color:#1f497d"> if (mentioned someone or addressed remarks directly to someone)<u></u><u></u></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent:.5in"><span style="font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif";color:#1f497d">and (attributed some non-technical motivation or emotional response to that person)<u></u><u></u></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif";color:#1f497d"> then remove or rewrite that part<u></u><u></u></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif";color:#1f497d"><u></u> <u></u></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif";color:#1f497d">Note that the nature (positive or negative) of the attributed motivation or response is not relevant, just that I am making such an attribution. Mostly I can
identify those cases pretty easily.<u></u><u></u></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif";color:#1f497d">It gets me to change statements like "Peter, you are emotionally incapable of participating positively in this community" to "Peter, here's a tactic to help
you participate more positively in this community."<u></u><u></u></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif";color:#1f497d">Hope this helps,<u></u><u></u></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif";color:#1f497d">--paulr<u></u><u></u></span></p>
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